ok, not that I was lazy and didn't want to tame this beast (I love a challenge) but got schoolwork to do, so I ended up repartitioning to toss the dedicated boot partition and reinstalled Lubuntu, Cinnarch and Crunchbang.
I let each one write grub to MBR and this time I did #! last and after rebooting it can see all three systems and of course #! is set as the default.
Thanks again so much for all the advice! I think I'm beginning to get the chroot process. good thing is it's coming up in a couple weeks in my Linux course, so I'm sure soon I'll have it down pat.
>> :: All Transmission from Base Station Polaris Intergalactic -:-:- The stars my destination! :: <<
I feel that you would have sorted it, one way or another, but as you had the chance to start again... probably less problems in the long run